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locus_ofcontro) wrote2007-07-06 08:43 pm
locus_ofcontro) wrote2007-07-06 08:43 pm
What you hear...
isn't necessarily what is meant.
Don't take the words you hear at surface avlue. They are not meant to be judgemental but are a form of trying to be observant and helpful. He's seeing places he can help, not things you haven't gotten done.
I'm only hearing it harshly because I've been judging myself on the things I have not gotten done and when I hear it from someone else, it's like being criticized.
He doesn't mean it that way. *just breathe*
Don't take the words you hear at surface avlue. They are not meant to be judgemental but are a form of trying to be observant and helpful. He's seeing places he can help, not things you haven't gotten done.
I'm only hearing it harshly because I've been judging myself on the things I have not gotten done and when I hear it from someone else, it's like being criticized.
He doesn't mean it that way. *just breathe*