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September 8, 2006

Alive In Joy
Dispelling Drama

There are scores of people in the world who seem to be magnets for calamity.
They live their lives jumping from one difficult situation to the next,
surrounded by unstable individuals. Some believe themselves victims of fate and
decry a universe they regard as malevolent. Others view their chaotic
circumstances as just punishments for some failing within. Yet, in truth,
neither group has been fated or consigned to suffer. They are likely
unconsciously drawing drama into their lives, attracting catastrophe through
their choices, attitudes, and patterns of thought. Drama, however disastrous,
can be exciting and stimulating. But the thrill of pandemonium eventually begins
to frustrate the soul and drain the energy of all who embrace it. To halt this
process, we must understand the root of our drama addiction, be aware of our
reactions, and be willing to accept that a serene, joyful life need not be a
boring one.

Many people, so used to living in the dramatic world they create, feel
uncomfortable when confronted with the prospect of a lifetime of peace and
contentment. The drama in their lives serves multiple purposes. Upset causes
excitement, prompting the body to manufacture adrenaline, which produces a
pleasurable surge of energy. For those seeking affection in the form of
sympathy, drama forms the basis of their identity as a victim. And when drama is
familial, many people believe they can avoid abandonment by continuing to play a
key role in the established family dynamic. The addiction to drama is fed by the
intensity of the feelings evoked during bouts of conflict, periods of
uncertainty, and upheaval.

Understanding where the subconscious need for drama stems from is the key to
addressing it effectively. Journaling can help you transfer this need from your
mind onto a benign piece of paper. After repeated writing sessions, your
feelings regarding the mayhem, hurt feelings, and confusion often associated
with drama become clear. When you confront your emotional response to drama and
the purpose it serves in your life, you can reject it. Each time you consciously
choose not to take part in dramatic situations or associate with dramatic
people, you create space in your inner being that is filled with a calm and
tranquil stillness and becomes an asset in your quest to lead a more centered
life.


Truer words were never spoken.

Comments

[utsi.livejournal.com]

wow. twitch. thank you

close to home but not quite

[redneck-1.livejournal.com]

it sounds as though you are talking about the conversation we had a few days ago but you do seem to be missing a couple of things that you filled in your self

i do not thrive nor enjoy the conflicts how ever i usually feel extremely exhausted and totally emotionally drained but also i am generally in a state of absolute and almost utterly ashamed of the actions of the conflict

this tends to bother me more than the original conflict

i draw no enjoyment nor fulfillment from any such engagement

i do engage in conflict far more easily than i should but it is always the last thing i seek

peace and calm is the preferred state of mind for me and often ill ignore things that annoy me in order to stay in t hat state as long as i can