Kid Tales

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Some days I wish I had a running digital recording of conversations that I have with my daughter. 

This morning when I picked her up, the babysitter said that K had gotten into her makeup earlier in the week and lied about it.  Now I recall one morning this week where she'd put some of my lipstick on before we left in the morning and I didn't make her take it off (I'm not a makeup nazi for kids.)  Anyway, it's my belief (NOW) that this was the same morning.

Turns out, the sitter believed that K got into her makeup and questioned her about it.  K was absolutely adament that it wasn't the sitter's makeup, but she didn't believe K.  I told her I'd talk it over with K (this was on the heels of a couple other things of note btw).

SO..I arrive after work, K comes to the car, and I tell her to get in.  She rolls her eyes at me, and says "you wanna talk about something."  I laughed and said, "why yes I do.  What do you think I want to talk about?"  She says' Dinner!"  I say..." get in."  She gets in.  ***I tell her I think she's a smart cookie.  She asks why and I said "because you KNOW that this is a good time for us to talk and this is when mommy likes to talk to you about stuff."  She says "I KNOW".  So I ask her again, what do you think I want to talk to you about.  I don't know she says.  I say that the sitter & I talked this morning.  She says ...OOOH....
I ask again, what do I want to talk about...she says...MAKEUP.

I laughed...I asked her to tell me about it.  K insists!!!  that it wan't the sitter's makeup and that it was mine.  She even got me the lipstick to show me which one she used.  We agreed that the best way to avoid her being accused of getting into the sitters makeup/perfume was to STAY OUT OF MINE. and that on special occasions I'd let her use my stuff (I'm not freaky about kids/makeup).  She thought that would work, but reminded me that it wasn't HER fault that the sitter wasn't paying attention when she arrived with it on, "she's older, she should know."  I couldn't fault her on that one!!


We had a fabulous talk tonight.  About all of the issues that had been brought up this morning, while we made supper and giggled and laughed.  Turns out, my daughter picks on the boy she likes, by knocking his hat off and throwing snow at him....

mmm....mmmm  the apple doesn't fall from the tree..

But I'd really love to record those conversations and chats..they are the moments, where I wonder if I'm doing good by her...or bad.  What will they look like to her therapist in 20 years?

She talks to me about wanting to buy a puppy when she grows up, then tells me the kind she wants is the one she "wouldn't put down at T's house!"  When I told her that puppy would be all grown up by the time she could buy it, she was sad.

I told her my co-worker T, loved going shopping with her last week, and she tells me that she'll go again "anytime, it was fun."

I've been dressing better this week.  Doing my hair and makeup in the morning.  Today EVERYONE at work commented to the point, that I asked T, how bad have I really been?  I knew I was in trouble when she asked if I really wanted her to answer that.  mmmmm... When I commented to K (who has asked me every morning "do you have court today mommy") that I was looking better, she said...ummmmm...NOPE.

Little rat, is trying to train me, to LOOK at her when she answers me and says something.  If I don't and miss it, I get SOUNDLY reminded that "I had the grin on my face MOOM.MMM... I'm just KIDDING."  She says "nope," and is grinning like  a cheshire cat!!

All personality...and then some!! 

Comments

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you know, it would be neat to have some of that stuff recorded :) I had some recordings of me (many years ago) for a while and as I grew, I couldn't believe it was me.

I'm the kind of person who never things to stop long enough to "capture" that moment in time. As a result, I don't have much that ties me to my childhood, except a headful of mostly bad memories. I think that tangible things you can put away now might be a very endearing thing to her 20+ years from now...maybe more.

babe - you have got to be one of the best mothers I've ever seen with her child. You talk with her like she's a real person because YOU believe she really is one. There's huge value in that.

Yeah, she may see a therapist one day - but I would bet that it won't be because of the foundational relationship she's had with her mother.

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I agree! From everything that I see, you're doing a great job with K!

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I believe that I was incensed enough to demagnetize the recording of me singing when I was about 4 years old. Apparently one should not tease me about some things! :-) And I believe that I've managed to collect and 'file' away all the 8mm movies of me too.... ;-)